After all these years...
The most common question I get asked is "How do you guys manage to live together on a 27' boat?". It has never been hard for me.
I have always been attracted to water. Horses and water. Swimming, scuba diving and paddling. Sailing only seemed a natural progression for me and so did living aboard. I think serious cruising couples are much closer than most land based ones. The need to be alone for a few hours or needing ones space is an alien concept for me. Even during our lengthy 55 day crossing I never felt the urge to get off the boat and go sit by myself for awhile.
Before Chuck and I made the decision to make our relationship permanent we sat down together and had a serious discussion. Chuck was quite clear about his personal goals. When he retired he was going cruising. He sincerely hoped I would join him and share his dreams but there would be sacrifices and he explained what his had been. This boat was who he was and NO we would never need a bigger one. I moved aboard in 1996 and have never looked back.
I can't say I never dream of having a full size kitchen with a real oven to bake in, especially around Christmas time, but those moments are rare and it will happen one day, along with the horses.
Another question I'm frequently asked is "What do you guys do at night?". That one always makes me laugh. What do you think? We talk, we listen to the radio, surf the internet and watch some of our favorite movies. What do you do at night?
The third and most thoroughly discussed question is in regards to posessions. STUFF: Junk, things, clutter. The "stuff" thing for me is fairly simple, there is no extra stuff. I don't have a shoe fetish or a passion for trinkets so it's not a big challenge but we both still have to occassionally cull our posessions. Books are usually our problem. Secretly I have visions of us leaving a harbor and I am hurling "stuff" overboard. Cell phones, laptops.....
There is nothing mysterious or difficult about our lifestyle. We try to keep it as simple as possible with the least amount of anxiety and whatever it is we are doing it seems to be working. Nearly fifteen years of marriage and eighteen years of living aboard and we are closer than ever.
Its not about sacrifices, its about priorities.
How can you guys live together on a 27' sailboat? SIMPLE.